Pregnancy Affirmations
Early Pregnancy
For TTC veterans, the discovery of a positive pregnancy test can be mixed with a wide range of feelings from joy to fear to ambivalence. Combine a deep longing for something with an awareness that it is not under one's control and there's a reasonable chance something could go wrong - it's the perfect storm for an unquiet mind. And during a pregnancy following a loss, the inner conflict is amplified by the memories of how such a loss feels.
When I got pregnant two months after my first miscarriage, despite my natural optimism, the awareness of the possibility of another loss hovered in my peripheral vision. Each day of waiting through the first trimester felt like an eternity. Around the 8th week, I got fed up with being in limbo. I realized that being afraid to get hurt again was keeping me on edge, unable to settle in to the reality of being pregnant. I needed to dig deep and find the courage to let myself love. I found these words which are poignant and somewhat painful, but they brought me a deep sense of peace:
To my unborn baby: "I love you, even if I might lose you before I ever get to hold you in my arms."
Though this pregnancy did not work out, I felt more comforted knowing I had let my heart be open and accepting of this being despite the outcome. This was the only affirmation I wrote during this phase as I was extremely exhausted during that 6 weeks. Eventually I intend to write more that are focused on self-care, nourishment, courage and love. But I wanted to share this for now because it shifted me in a deep and powerful way, bringing me much peace at a difficult time.
11/7/16
I have been inspired by three participants in the Egg Quality Pilot program getting a huge surprise. While the program started at the beginning of October and the intent was to hold off for three months before TTC again, three participants have actually gotten pregnant in this first month of the program! So begins the 8 week wait, as 8 weeks is about how long it takes from the time of an early positive pregnancy test to the genetic testing results. These are a few affirmations I have written to help move as gracefully as possible through this period:
AFFIRMATIONS FOR THE 8 WEEK WAIT
When I got pregnant two months after my first miscarriage, despite my natural optimism, the awareness of the possibility of another loss hovered in my peripheral vision. Each day of waiting through the first trimester felt like an eternity. Around the 8th week, I got fed up with being in limbo. I realized that being afraid to get hurt again was keeping me on edge, unable to settle in to the reality of being pregnant. I needed to dig deep and find the courage to let myself love. I found these words which are poignant and somewhat painful, but they brought me a deep sense of peace:
To my unborn baby: "I love you, even if I might lose you before I ever get to hold you in my arms."
Though this pregnancy did not work out, I felt more comforted knowing I had let my heart be open and accepting of this being despite the outcome. This was the only affirmation I wrote during this phase as I was extremely exhausted during that 6 weeks. Eventually I intend to write more that are focused on self-care, nourishment, courage and love. But I wanted to share this for now because it shifted me in a deep and powerful way, bringing me much peace at a difficult time.
11/7/16
I have been inspired by three participants in the Egg Quality Pilot program getting a huge surprise. While the program started at the beginning of October and the intent was to hold off for three months before TTC again, three participants have actually gotten pregnant in this first month of the program! So begins the 8 week wait, as 8 weeks is about how long it takes from the time of an early positive pregnancy test to the genetic testing results. These are a few affirmations I have written to help move as gracefully as possible through this period:
AFFIRMATIONS FOR THE 8 WEEK WAIT
- No matter what, it’s going to be okay.
- Even though I have been hurt before, I am willing to release my fears, knowing that I can survive whatever outcome arises.
- Rather than focusing on possible risks, I can instead savor the hopefulness that this could actually work out.
- As there is nothing I can do to control the outcome of this pregnancy, my energy is best spent taking good care of my body, mind and soul.
- I am learning to trust my body to do what it needs to do to care for this pregnancy.
- I can breath loving energy into my womb to nourish my baby.
